In Buddhism, there are what we call the Four Immeasurables— Equanimity, Love, Compassion and Joy. These are qualities we want in mega doses. I want to talk about equanimity, as it provides the foundation for the other three.
One of my favorite definition for equanimity was by Tsongkhapa, the revered founder of the Tibetan Buddhist Gelug order. He defined equanimity as freedom from powerful reactions, positive or negative, to another person or an event—the ability to be even-minded toward everyone, no matter how they behave.
How wonderful would that be? To no longer be on that emotional roller coaster ride along with others. To be able to step aside of a situation and be totally unaffected. This is the wisdom of sameness.
It is with lots of practice that we can eventually resolve the entrenched sense of “being me”, the source of errors. The moment we free ourselves from reaction created by pride, ignorance, hatred, desire, and jealousy, we will find an intimacy of our own feelings and of others. We no longer will have the need to divide the world into good and bad, love and hate. This is our true nature.